Co-Regulation

By D. Hutton

I experience chronic pain on a daily basis due to chronic disease. Chronic pain is mentally and physically exhausting. Part of my self care is co- regulating my nervous system with my husband everyday. We sit quietly, calmly together and observe how our bodies feel, just breathing/existing. We are in physical contact, sitting on the couch. We practice observing how our thoughts, conversation and emotions affect our nervous systems. Sometimes I get very anxious if he shows empathy when I don't want it. Sometimes we just sit quietly. I actually resisted the co regulation aspect of the poly vagal theory, but you were so persistent with this information that I finally tried it out. Life is so much better now!! Thank you for your persistence, dedication, and information Gary Sharpe!